In our audio gift, Peace of Mind, we invite you to ask a question of your heart, once you have paused to harmonize your brain-mind and heart-mind.
In that state of coherence, there is a great wisdom available to us. A wisdom beyond what our thinking alone can access.
It takes two things to gain access to our heart’s wisdom.
First, the gatekeepers of Gratitude and Compassion open the way. They activate conscious connection to our heart’s neurotransmitters; our heart-mind.
Second, the simplicity of a short question. Wisdom stays simple. Keep your question to 10 words or less.
Here are 4 simple heartfelt questions:
You can use these questions to:
Let’s dive in to the 4 Heartfelt Questions and see what doors of perception open…
“How can I have more choices?”
Its powerful to increase our options, possibilities and choices. With more choice, we gain freedom to choose future outcomes.
Slowing things down and getting curious is important. It gives us time to discover new possibilities. It gives us space to recognize the “ahha” idea. To find the option where our heart responds “YES!”
It’s important to open our choices. Slowing down in our present moment helps us see clearly.
Having choices increases our capability to feel accountable in life.
“How can I see this as a learning opportunity?”
Many of us in North America grew up in a culture where “mistakes” were cause for disapproval. This promoted a feeling of “not Enough-ness”, even shame, in the education systems.
“Mistakes” resulted in disciplinary action. Or we were set aside. And often got an “F” grade and the feeling of failure as a brand. We learned to put our hand up to answer only when we knew for sure and we were safe.
As a result many people worry about making a mistake. As adults there may be “echoes” of the shaming and humiliation experienced earlier in life. We can change this sense of not being enough, not feeling worthy, that was deeply implanted. It’s time to let go of this old limited way of thinking. We can now set ourselves free to enjoy discovery, exploration and learning.
Today, “learning curve” thinking fosters innovation. An approach of multiple experiments; many fail, yet overall they get closer to success.
Old-style work environments, where “mistakes” get “disciplinary action”, do not attract innovators! These workplaces often have high rates of “stress leave” and staff turnover!
Fast-paced learning work environments encourage experimentation and learning “by a series of approximations”. Consequently, these rapid-response companies grow, attracting creative, positive people.
It’s like driving down the road. We must continually adjust to stay on course. Learning can be the same way.
We can choose to see those adjustments as learning opportunities. We can change the way we think about learning opportunities and enjoy the game of life.
“What can I forgive to be free?”
When we choose to forgive, we gain freedom from our past.
Forgiveness of self and others is key to living a more loving life, on purpose and in service. It’s a path to being able to love ourselves fully, with compassion for all the challenges of life.
It takes a lot of energy to hang on to judgement, resentment and blaming. Comparison, criticism and thoughts of separation negatively affect our health and happiness. Forgiveness is the key to step out of this energy-draining heaviness.
Forgiveness has powerful effects on our vitality and well-being. Perhaps more than imagined!
Science now proves the immediate physiological benefits of forgiveness. Forgiving increases our energy and sense of well-being, and lightens our hearts.
We share, in our Letting Go Process, a unique form of forgiveness, with a heart-centered approach.
Some people find value in writing a Forgiveness Journal. Just working through streams of thought as they write “I forgive …” line after line, for perhaps a week.
Then in a quiet letting go, they burn the journal notes, to truly release all the energy; symbolically creating a fresh start for themselves.
“Where do I feel I am enough?”
I love this one, because you can work with it two ways!
“Where in my life am I enough?”
“Where in my body do I notice sensation, when I feel I am enough?”
Staying with the felt sensation for up to 3 minutes will affirm this in the body.
The questions work both ways!
You ARE enough! Regardless of what others may have told you. Growing up, in school, in relationships, at work!
Is our human being-ness enough for our life experience? (The answer here is “YES!”)
Or has the ability to “Do” been used to measure our “enough-ness”?
The idea that we can measure our innate “enough-ness” rests upon a false assumption. Any attempt to measure our “enough-ness” requires more judgement and comparison. We can only win “approval”. That is not “enough-ness”.
“Enough-ness” is a feeling, the sensation of our unlimited human spirit. Of course, we are learning about love, sharing and experiencing. Its what life is all about. We are naturally enough for that. We are human beings. It’s how we live!
What we choose to do, remains the question. Choosing forgiveness sets us free for new experiences. How well we do anything, is simply the “learning opportunity” question.
Free to live, love and learn … as an ongoing journey.
How we experience our life is an continuing process. Its a process of learning to grow safely into the feeling that we are enough. We can be accountable, taking responsibility for our lives.
We pause a moment to remind ourselves we have choices.
We have compassion for ourselves and others. Its all a learning curve.
We forgive ourselves and others. We can let go of the past.
With kindness, we remind ourselves and each other.
We are enough.